If you want to give your man a killer blow job read on for our top tips and tricks to have him going wild.  

Performing oral on a guy is not a one size fits all experience. Each guy will have different preferences of speed & pressure, views of you and the most comfortable positions. Those are things you have to talk to your partner about and experiment with. Note: If you and your partner can’t talk about those things, you’ll want to explore why. Communication in the bedroom is the number one priority when it comes to pleasure.

1. Build Up the Anticipation + Take it Slow 

Like foreplay before sex, you should have some blow job foreplay too. Don't take the whole thing in your mouth and go to town. 

Start touching him and teasing him in other areas of his body before you even get to his member. Once you do make it down there, tease him even more with some light strokes and licks.

2. Be Enthusiastic

We know, it’s in the name but don’t think of it as a job! It’s an intimate sexual act meant to bring you and your partner pleasure. Your man wants to know that pleasing him, pleases you. 

Once you do start getting worked up, don’t be afraid to start touching yourself or positioning yourself so he can touch you. Believe us, he’ll be more than happy to help you out. 

Try using a vibrator to stimulate you while you’re pleasuring him or have him use it on you to keep the anticipation alive. Vibrating panties are a great option for hands free fun too.

3. Keep it Wet + Let Him See It 

how to give a great blow job - flavored lubricant


If you don’t have enough saliva to keep his member wet during oral sex, consider a flavored lubricant. These are water-based formulas that are meant to be used for oral sex and are completely safe. Plus, they'll add a little flavor do your adventure.

If you have enough lubrication/spit, try taking his penis out of your mouth and creating a trail from the head of his penis to your lips and make eye contact with him. If he's into that sort of thing you'll know right away.

 

 

4. Use Suction 

This one is counter-intuitive considering it's called a blow job, but you definitely want to focus on suction instead. 

Focus the suction on the head of his penis which is the most sensitive. It can also be over-stimulated, so watch his body language and ask him what he likes.

5. Use Your Hands 

blow job helper and flavored lubricantIf you want your guy to feel like you took his whole penis in your mouth but you can't actually fit it, use your hands. Keep your mouth on the head and use your hands to stimulate the shaft.

When your jaw needs a break, keep the stimulation going with a handy. Try using both hands vertically on either side of his penis and create suction at the head with your palms. He'll get a similar sensation to a blow job.

If you want to mix up the hand routine a bit, try this blow job helper by Doc Johnson. It's an open ended stroker, so you can still suck on the head while you stimulate the shaft.

6. Do the Twist 

No, not the dance. If you really want to drive your man wild when giving him a blow job, you have to do the twist. This little maneuver is especially good for when you're getting tired and want him to orgasm. 

First, make sure his penis is good and lubricated. You need to make sure you can slide your hand around the shaft and you don't want any friction here. Make a very loose fist around the shaft of his penis, and bend your wrist so your hand slides horizontally around the shaft while sliding your hand up vertically simultaneously. 

Advanced tip: Use both hands on his shaft, going in opposite horizontal directions and keep your lips resting on the top of your hand so you're enveloping his entire penis. When you get to the top of his penis, you can slide the palm of your top hand over the head for a little something extra. 

Disclaimer: Doing this at a consistent medium/fast speed will likely make him orgasm quickly.

7. Fondle His Testicles

vibrating cockring with prostate stimulatorHis balls are packed with lots of nerve endings, so you definitely want to make it a point to stimulate them too. They are very sensitive though, so it's best to start out with a gentle touch until you know exactly what he likes and how much pressure he can take. 

While stroking his member with your hand, lick them, kiss them and gently suck on them. One or both at a time is up to you. This is a great opportunity to make eye contact with him as well. Try using a small bullet vibrator at the base of his testicles or have him wear a vibrating cock ring which will provide stronger sensations and keep your hands free to pleasure him directly. 

Once you're using your mouth on his penis, cup them, lightly jostle them and stroke them or tug on them during his orgasm. As with all play, make sure you're watching his body language and facial expressions to ensure you're not doing anything too hard. It's always better to start off gently and increase the pressure if he asks you too.

Don't be afraid to ask him in the moment, "is this pressure okay?" He'll appreciate that you care so much.

8. Stimulate His Prostate 

water-based anal lubricantTo slip a finger or not, that is the question. You definitely don't want to stimulate his prostate from the inside unless he's cool with it and you've already discussed it. But, you can still stimulate it without ever having to slip a finger in his anus. 

The small area between his scrotum and his anus, the perineum, is where you'll be able to stimulate it from the outside. Try applying small pulses of pressure with your hand while you're stimulating him with your mouth. During orgasm, press a bit harder.

You can also try placing the pad of your finger on the outside of his anus. Definitely wait until he's sufficiently worked up before you do this, and make your way there slowly. Start teasing him around the area and ask him if he likes what you're doing before you go in for the kill. 

Once you’ve both gotten more comfortable with prostate and anal play you can start using prostate toys. You’ll find stimulators for everyone from beginners and beyond. Once you start using toys for prostate play make sure you’re using a good anal lubricant.

9. Make Eye Contact 

We've eluded to this a few times in other tips, but this is important enough to mention again. Having someone's penis in your face is pretty intimate, and so is eye contact. 

Men are visual creatures by nature. While what you're doing feels good, it's not exciting to look at the top of your head the entire time. Look him in the eye and let him see you with his penis in your mouth. It will drive him wild.

10. Make it the Main Event 

Sure, blow jobs make for great foreplay, but they're also great as the main event. Have it be all about your man for a few minutes and let him lay back and enjoy the ride. 

Don't be surprised if he's snoozing within a few minutes after he finishes. Great blow jobs have a way of doing that to a man. If he falls asleep and you’re still worked up grab your favorite vibrator and finish the job. Knowing that his penis made you so hot you couldn’t wait for your next round of playtime will give him something sexy to think about the next time you’re apart.