Find Your P-Spot: Prostate Play

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There’s a reason the prostate is known as the P-Spot. It’s the male equivalent of the famous G-Spot and paying a little attention to it will result in the strongest orgasms of your life. Seriously, prostate play makes guys explode. We highly recommend trying it out!  

We know, the idea of sticking a finger or butt plug into your back door isn’t always the most appealing. Most guys fall prey to cultural stereotypes and a general uneasiness when it comes to anal play. We get it. We’re here to change that. We’re here to tell you to broaden your horizons and embrace the pleasure that comes from your prostate.

Remember that old saying that ships are safe in harbor, but that's not what they were made for? Well, your orgasms are fine without prostate play, but that isn’t what YOU were made for. You’re a sexual being, we all are. Humans were made to experience pleasure – why not embrace that simple fact?

Keep reading to learn some important info you’re going to want to know before purchasing your new best friend, the prostate massager.


Before You Start

The very first thing we need to stress is that NOTHING about prostate play makes you gay. It doesn’t make you less of a man. It doesn’t make your feminine. It doesn’t do anything but make you a forward-thinking person who’s in touch with your sexuality, and that’s pretty rad if you ask us.

The next thing we need to say is that the idea that milking your prostate makes you gay is a holdover from another time. It’s closed-minded and, in all honestly, really dumb. Unfortunately, it’s a common belief.

This attitude needs to change. We need to update these beliefs to something more modern – like the fact that as many as 57% of men from one particular study had engaged in some form of anal play. We’d like that number to reach 100% because trust us, guys, it’s awesome. Still, we couldn’t be prouder to play a part in this blooming cultural open-mindedness.

Want to join us? Then share your prostate stories with [email address] and we might feature them, anonymously of course, in the future!

One more piece of info and then we’re onto the sexy stuff, we promise. Regularly milking your prostate has some substantial health benefits. These include: helping to prevent benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) by eliminating the buildup of prostatic fluid, improving blood flow to your prostate, and even potentially reducing the risk of developing prostate cancer.

Okay, now it’s time to move onto the fun stuff – practical tips for milking your prostate.

Lube Up
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Make sure to use lube when doing anything with you or your partner’s ass. That’s prostate play 101. The type of lube you use is up to you, though we’re big fans of anal lube and silicone-based lubes. Just remember that if you use silicone lube, you can’t use silicone toys too!


Trim Your Nails

This one’s a no-brainer, right? Wrong. You’d be surprised how many guys don’t think much about their fingernails before getting down with their prostate. We’ll spare you the cringey and painful descriptions, but just know that you ONLY want something smooth going in.


Drop the Poop Worries

Whenever the topic of milking your prostate comes up, it’s inevitable that most people think about feces. While this certainly is something to consider, it’s not as likely as you think. Now that doesn’t mean you don’t want to make sure you’re spick and span down there. Take a shower, wash everything up, try out an enema for maximum cleanliness, and go into your experience feeling comfortable.


Warm Up & Go Slow

Don’t go for the gold all at once! Work up to using your finger, your anal beads, or a toy with a flared base on your ass. Start with your perineum and sphincter and work your way up to penetration and massage.

Your perineum is the area between your scrotum and butt. By massaging and pushing on it, you begin to stimulate the tissues around your prostate. Try it out. Not only does this give you a taste of what you’re in for once later, but it also helps enlarge the prostate. This, in turn, makes it easier to find once you pop a finger in. Then try rubbing and massaging your sphincter itself. There are a lot of nerves located there. Feels good, right?

Now that we’ve covered the basics, it’s time for the fun stuff. Keep reading to learn how to find your prostate, what prostate play feels like, and more. Enjoy, guys!


Finding Your Prostate

Despite being sensitive and capable of producing the most intense orgasms you’ll ever experience, the prostate is often hard to find. Part of this is due to the beliefs mentioned above. After all, fewer men engaging in anal play means less knowledge on how to find your prostate. Part of this is due to the gland itself, though.

Your prostate is a one-inch, walnut-shaped gland located beneath your bladder. It’s about three to four inches from the start of your anal cavity. It’s also not something you’re going to be touching directly. Instead, you’ll be able to feel its outline – the bulge, if you’re into dirty jokes! – through the wall of your rectum.

Don’t worry, even massaging and playing with the bulge is more than enough to give you a prostate-induced orgasm.

To get started finding it, you’re going to want to lube up both your sphincter and finger (or Lelo Bruno Prostate Massager, whatever’s handy) and slowly slide in a few inches. You want whatever you’re using to point towards your stomach. Wiggle it around and you’ll know when you find your prostate. It’s an unmistakable feeling. Speaking of which…


What Does it Feel Like?

The short answer to “what does prostate milking feel like” is…well, there isn’t a short answer. While playing with your prostate can produce powerful and overwhelming orgasms, it feels different for different people.

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At first, many men say prostate stimulation makes them feel like they have to pee. Others say it feels like nothing at all. Still others say they feel a warm or tingly sensation. Whatever it feels like for it, remember to keep at it!

Play around with how you’re massaging your prostate. Try applying sustained pressure. Try tapping it gently multiple times. Try rubbing around the outline. Try a vibrating prostate massager. Try vibrating anal beads (make sure to push them in and out and hit your prostate. You’ll thank us later!).

Keep experimenting and you’ll find the touch, speed, and rhythm that works for you. The result? The mind-blowing, leg-shaking, singular experience of a prostate orgasm. The only question is if you’re ready.

Start shopping our extensive selection of prostate toys now to experience all the pleasures of the prostate for yourself!

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